What do you do if you're just a bad person?

Say you just can't seem to do right. You're not totally evil, but often times you're only thinking "about yourself" or you act out without thinking. Say you try REALLY hard to just do the right thing, and you jsut can't seem to rise above all the bad you've already done (like, Karma-wise).



For instance, you make friends with a person you see always alone at work, and then you can't get RID of them. Or you try really hard to just suck up the problems with your mother in law for your husband's sake, and you end up sucking it up so much that it comes out in other forms (like you get really drunk and embarrass yourself in a bar).



I seriously want to do something that just RIDS all of my bad Karma. Like I can't seem to have anything good happen to me for all the bad I've done.What do you do if you're just a bad person?
I'm am just making an observation...but your post sounds very self-absorbed...maybe the reason you feel everything is always about you is because you make it exclusively about you....It might help if you stop thinking that karma is haunting you....everyone has a laundry list of stupid, regrettable and embarrassing moments that they wish never had happened...leave the past in the past...accept what you did and why you did it....and begin the process of healing and forgiving yourself....you'll never be able to escape "karma" if you constantly think you are being punished for pass regressions....move forward w/ your life and as the saying goes, wipe the slate clean.....
It's simple ignorance of how the emotions work and how to deal with them effectively. What you need is "Emotional Resilience" by David Viscott, MD. In the book he explains how pent up hurt leads to anger, guilt and depression and how through standing up for yourself, protecting yourself, forgiving others and yourself, because no one's perfect, you can achieve emotional resilience and end these cycles of hatefulness and self-destruction you describe. It's certainly made a huge difference in my life.What do you do if you're just a bad person?
Get honest with yourself. Change your attitude set goals.
That's not how it works. But he good news is that we all get it right eventually. I'm here to answer Q's hoping it helps mine...
boundaries! you need to establish them. What you are doing is going from extremely self absorbed to extremely selfless and it has and will continue to backfire. Pick your battles with your mother in law- don't always suck it up but don't always fly off the handle. Maybe vent to a friend about her. I really understand the- can't get rid of her thing' There comes to a point when you need to make boundaries- if they are constantly calling you then only pick up 1 out of every three times or not after a certain hour. you can also talk to the person and say that you love talking to her but after ten it's too late for me or you could be dead honest with her and say that it overwhelms you when she calls 5 times a day and it's having a bad effect on the friendship which of course you don't want so maybe she could try to limit her calls. you have good intentions. you need to find the balance between giving to other while still taking care of your needs. good luck- finding that balance is hard.